Services available in person or through telehealth
Do you ever think about how many people in the picture above are struggling with sexual issues, or are being impacted by someone who is? It's likely more than you may think. Whether it's sex addiction, porn addiction, partner betrayal, Problematic Sexual Behaviors (PSB) or even sexually illegal behaviors, I'd like help you heal, recover and move forward with your life. I'm not here to judge you, and I'm certainly not here to shame you. My role, as a licensed and certified therapist, is to help you.
I hold specialized certifications for the treatment of Sex Addiction, and Porn Addiction (CSAT through IITAP), and Problematic Sexual Behaviors (through SASH). I am also trained to heal trauma through EMDR, Brainspotting, and the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model through APSATS. These skills allow me to help those struggling with sex and porn addictions to better understand the trauma that is impacting their intimate relationships. Additionally, I am able to help partners heal from their betrayal trauma. Whether it is an initial discovery of betrayal, or a painful drip-drip-drip of ongoing betrayal disclosures, it is important to see a professional who has the specialized training and skills to help you begin to heal these unique wounds.
My style is informal, relaxed and non-judgmental, I try to meet my clients where they are at and offer them support and skillful clinical guidance through what is often one of the most difficult periods of their life. If this seems like something you might be interested in, call me and let's spend a few minutes talking about what's on your mind. If I think I can help, I will tell you. If not, I may be able to direct you to someone who can.
When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change …"
- Paulo Coelho
The primary focus of my practice is privacy. I don't want clients to feel shame about their problems, but I do recognize their need for privacy. Therefore, there is no big sign up on my front door, and I don't even have my address on this site. My experience is that people who are struggling with sexual issues prefer to get help privately. I've been in this field for over 15 years, and in that time, I have seen my clients do amazing work, and bring stability and happiness back into their lives.
These informal assessments are for educational purposes only. Please feel free to call to set up an appointment with me and we can discuss them in the context of therapy. Simply offering these does not constitute a professional relationship between me (Brian Martin, MFT) and the reader.
How Can Therapy Help Me
Often therapy is about healing, empowerment and growth. The simple fact that you are looking at this cite could be considered an example of these. Attending therapy regularly can help build on this and help you address new or long-standing issues or problems in your life. Your sexual behaviors, or those of someone close to you, can be as hurtful as they once were pleasurable. Making the choice in therapy to address the hurt that has been inflicted on you or by you can mean the difference between healthy and unhealthy future relationships. Specifically, our work generally focuses on problems of a sexual nature (sex addiction, porn addiction, sexual partner betrayal, or other problematic sexual behaviors). Therapy done by a qualified professional can help you change problematic behaviors, improve coping strategies, and identify healthy ways for you to move forward in your life, individually or in your personal and/or professional relationships.
How I Can
I believe I can use my many years of clinical training and experience to help my clients achieve relief from emotional pain and conflict in themselves and in their important relationships. I do this by employing proven clinical techniques, a judgement free environment, and a bit of modest humor. My goal is to help each person relax and explore the personal thoughts, thoughts, feelings and behaviors that shame and social stigma have silenced in them for so long. Often this work also includes healing the known and unknown traumas that life has visited upon them. I can't say there aren't some emotionally difficult parts of this process, there usually are. My goal is to use my extensive training and clinical skills to help the process be productive, healing and renewing. I believe relationships matter in all aspects of our lives - for good and for bad. I offer each client the opportunity to build a good working relationship with me in the services of helping them heal and grow.
Why Relationships Matter
Humans are meant to be in relationships. Healthy relationships nourish us and help us live full, happy and healthy lives. Unhealthy relationships often drain us of energy and hope, and can harm our mental and physical health. All relationships have a beginning, a middle and an end. Often, the trick is knowing which phase you're in. The term "relationship" is often assumed to mean between two people, ie friends, family, lovers, etc. However, we can also have non-human relationships. For example, many people have relationships with an addiction (ie drugs, sex, porn, etc), a behaviour (lying, shopping, working, etc), an illness, a thought, a fear, a pet, or, even with money. Similarly, we all have other people we are in relationship with who are not (or not yet… ?) in the category of 'friend, family or lover.' For example, a teacher, a boss, your favorite clerk at the grocery store, or the barista who knows your daily coffee order the moment she sees you enter. We also can have less healthy and/or less socially acceptable relationships with other people as well. These include affair partners, prostitutes, drug dealers, the IRS auditor, or one's assigned Probation Officer (no shade to the POs out there…).
Each of these relationships matter - and some matter a lot. For "good" reason(s) and for "bad" reasons these relationships matter - both to our internal sense of self, and to our external perception of those around us. Why, how much, and for how long they matter is often unique to each person. As is the impact each persons' relationships can have on their life and the lives of those around them. In relational therapy, we explore these relationships, without shame or judgment, and we try to find the best path forward for each person, individually.